Adam was a faithful member of his church. He joined the church from another denomination and was not familiar with all the “rules.” Adam was invited to become a deacon, and the process was well along when his divorce of long ago surfaced. A tumult arose over whether or not a divorced person should be ordained and serve as a deacon.
Level II: Disagreement intensifies — a new concern enters: “me.”
Level III: Contest — a win/lose spirit develops, “sides” develop.
Level IV: Fight/flight — participants try to hurt others or drive them away.
Level V: Intractable situations — conflict out of control.